I used to have a neighbor who was a professional worrier. We’ll call her “Martha.” Martha described herself as coming “from a long line of master worriers”. They taught her well. She believed that a mother who didn’t worry
about her children wasn’t a good mother, at all. Martha and I had young children who played together at that time and she could not understand why I never worried about my children. In fact, since I didn’t worry about my children, Martha decided to worry about them for me. I told her it wasn’t necessary. Martha, who was very sweet and well-intended, was also very mislead. However, she was not alone. If you are a parent who dutifully worries about your children, keep reading. Just as I gave this information to Martha, I’ve got some Good News for you. But first, let me be clear: I love my children. I really, really love my children. However, I do not worry about them. Here’s why:
Webster defines worry this way: to feel uneasy or troubled; to feel anxious and distressed. Here’s the truth about worry and parenting: WORRYING ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN DOES NOT EQUAL LOVING YOUR CHILDREN. In fact, worrying about your children is one of the worse things you can do for them. Why? To put it bluntly, worry is fear. Just as faith attracts the things you desire, fear attracts the things you dread. Fear attracts the very things you do not want. An example of this can be found in the Book of Job. Job’s life was bombarded with tragedy. Job was in constant fear that something might happen to his children. And you know what happened? Job lost all of his children to disaster because Satan used Job’s fear against him. His fear brought to him the very thing he feared (See Job 1:9, 18-19, 3:25-26). So here’s the bottom line: PARENTS, WE MUST NOT WORRY ABOUT OUR CHILDREN. WE MUST RESIST FEAR! WE MUST BOLDLY DECLARE: WE FEAR NOT!
But how do we do it? How do we not worry? How do we FEAR NOT? Paul provided an answer in his letter to the Philippians.
Philippians 4: 6-7 (amp.) explains: Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God. And God’s peace (shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace) which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
See, just as the verse explains, the peace that I had regarding my children transcended my neighbor’s understanding, but it guarded my heart and mind from fear and worry. So when God’s Word tells me not to worry, I am not going to worry. I have a right to live life without fear or worry. This is not limited to my children only, but it includes my health, my finances, my profession…my life. The focus here is our children, but these instructions to fear not applies to everything. So we are to FEAR NOT. But HOW? I just do exactly what this verse says. I make my definite requests known to God, in this case, concerning my children. My request is that He protects my children. My request is that He guides their steps. My request is that He sends positive influences into their lives. My request is that they fulfill the plan and purposes He has for them. These are just some of the definite requests I have made known to God concerning my children. And then, I thank Him. I thank Him because I believe He has granted my requests.
And because I believe He has granted my requests, now I have peace. And do you know what ‘peace’ means in this scenario? Peace = No Worries = I Fear NOT! So when I am tempted to say, “I am so worried that Little Jimmy is going to fall and hurt himself,” I DON’T SAY IT. Instead of speaking my worry or fear, I’ll say, “God I ask you to protect Little Jimmy. I know you love him even more than I do. So I thank you for watching over him and keeping him safe.” Now if you’ve been a long-time worrier, this will take lots of practice, but keep at it. The benefits and peace that comes with trusting in and speaking God’s Word when it comes to your children is worth the effort.
So if you’re a parent that tends to worry, read Philippians 4:6-7 over and over and over with your children in mind. Get that verse in your heart. Talk to God about your children and make your requests for your children known to Him. Whether your children are toddlers, teens or in their twenties, God has a plan and purpose for their lives. Let Him know the desires of your heart for your children. After that, believe that He has heard and granted your requests. And then finally, receive His peace. When you do that, the peace that you have; with that assurance in your heart and mind, will enable you to BE a parent who, when it comes to your children, has NO WORRIES.